Me yasa kulle -kullen yana kunna wasu mutane, amma wasu a kashe

Akwai rahotannin kafofin watsa labarai da yawa masu karo da juna game da yadda cutar sankarau ta COVID-19 ke shafar abubuwan jima'i na mutane. Wasu suna cewa duk damuwa da tashin hankali yana sanya ɗimuwa a kan so, yayin da wasu ke cewa kowa yana da tsananin jaraba. Wanne ne?

Wataƙila kaɗan ne daga duka biyun. Bayan haka, mun sani daga tsaunin bincike na hankali cewa mutane biyu za su iya amsa yanayin iri ɗaya ta hanyoyi daban -daban, kuma abubuwan da ke haɓaka sha'awar jima'i a cikin wasu na iya jefa shi cikin wasu.

Akwai hanyoyi da yawa daban -daban na nazarin halin da ake ciki a yanzu, amma hanya ɗaya don kallon ta ita ce ta ruwan tabarau na Ka'idar Gudanar da Ta'addanci . Ainihin ra'ayin da ke bayan wannan ka'idar shine lokacin da aka tunatar da mu game da yuwuwar mutuwar kanmu (watau lokacin da muka fuskanci gaskiyar cewa kowa zai mutu a ƙarshe), muna canza halayenmu da halayenmu ta hanyoyin da aka tsara don taimaka mana mu jimre.

Tunatarwa game da mutuwar mu tana kewaye da mu a yanzu. Kowace rana, ana cika mana labarai game da sabbin cututtuka da mutuwa daga sabon coronavirus, kuma duk da cewa wasu rukunin alƙaluma sun fi haɗari fiye da sauran, kafofin watsa labarai sun tunatar da mu cewa akwai mutane na kowane zamani da ke mutuwa daga wannan cutar.

A sakamakon haka, da yawa daga cikin mu suna fama da wani adadin mutuwar damuwa. Binciken Gudanar da Ta'addanci ya nuna cewa tabbas mutane daban -daban suna fuskantar wannan ta hanyoyi daban -daban.

Misali, a cikin binciken dakin gwaje -gwaje inda aka nemi mutane su yi tunani game da yuwuwar mutuwarsu, masana ilimin halayyar dan adam sun gano cewa wannan ya kara sha’awar jima’i da sha’awar wasu mutane - amma bai yi hakan ga kowa ba. Wanene ya fi dacewa ya sami karuwar sha'awar jima'i da sha'awa? Wadanda ke da sifar jikin mutum mai kyau, haka kuma waɗanda suka fi jin daɗin kusancin jiki.

A takaice dai, yadda muke ji game da jikin mu da yadda muke ji game da jima'i gabaɗaya ya zama manyan mahimman abubuwan da ke hasashen ko mutane sun dogara da jima'i azaman hanyar jimrewa don rage tashin hankali.

Wannan na iya taimakawa don bayyana dalilin da yasa wasu mutane ke da ƙarfi kuma sun fi yin jima'i a yanzu, kamar yadda aka tabbatar ta hanyar ƙaruwa a yawan amfani da batsa akan manyan bututu.

A lokaci guda, duk da haka, yana taimakawa don bayyana dalilin da yasa ba kowa ya fi sha'awar jima'i ba, kuma me yasa wasu ke amfani da hanyoyin da ba na jima'i ba don rage damuwa a maimakon haka.

Wata hanyar duba halin da ake ciki yanzu shine ta ruwan tabarau na Tsarin Kulawa na Biyu na Amsar Jima'i , wanda ke bayar da hujjar cewa dukkan mu muna da halaye daban -daban don tashin hankali na jima'i (yin kunnawa) da hana jima'i (kashewa). Sanya wata hanya, dukkan mu muna da “bututun gas” da “birki” idan ana batun sha’awar jima’i. Koyaya, wasu mutane suna da bututun iskar gas wanda koda yaushe ana matsa shi (wanda ke sauƙaƙe musu kunnawa), yayin da wasu ke da birki wanda koyaushe ana matsa shi (wanda ke sa su wahala a kunna).

Ga mutanen da aka hana su cikin sauƙi, yanayi na damuwa kamar wanda muke ciki a yanzu yana iya bugun birki. Waɗannan mutanen tabbas za su ga cewa yana da wahala a sami yanayi don yin jima'i a yanzu sai dai idan za su iya samun shagala mai ƙarfi ko wata hanya don shiga cikin lokacin.

Sabanin haka, ga waɗanda ke da sauƙin fa'ida, yanayin damuwa ba lallai ne ya haifar da shingen hanya ɗaya ba - kuma suna iya samun maƙasudin sakamako. yaya? Mun san cewa tsoro da fargaba wani lokaci suna da tasirin haɓaka sha'awar jima'i maimakon hana ta. Lallai, motsin rai mai ƙarfi galibi ana kuskure don jan hankalin jima'i. Bugu da ƙari, "canja wurin tashin hankali" na iya yuwuwar faruwa, wanda jihohin ƙarfin motsin rai ke ƙara haɓaka amsar jima'i. A zahiri, wannan shine ainihin dalilin da yasa mutane da yawa ke cewa "jima'i kayan shafa" shine mafi kyawun jima'i -tashin hankali daga tashin hankali tare da abokin tarayya wataƙila yana ƙaruwa da sha'awar jima'i a waɗancan lokuta.

Idan kai mutum ne wanda ke da sauƙin farawa da farko, Ina tsammanin wataƙila ka fi kamuwa da waɗannan tasirin, inda damuwa na iya haifar da gurɓataccen iskar gas maimakon birki.

Duk wata hanyar da za ku bincika wannan yanayin, yana da mahimmanci a gane cewa amsa ɗaya ba ta da kyau fiye da wani. Ko kuna da ƙari, ƙasa, ko adadin adadin sha'awar jima'i a yanzu, yana da kyau. Kuna yi. Kawai tuna cewa dukkanmu muna jimrewa ta hanyoyi daban -daban.

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