Haɗin Tsakanin Uwa Mai Nishaɗi da CPTSD

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• Karatun Mahimmancin Narcissism
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Lokacin da muke tunani game da rikicewar damuwa bayan tashin hankali (PTSD) galibi muna nufin yanayin da ke amsawa ga wani lamari guda kuma yana da alamun alamomi kamar walƙiya ga rauni na asali. Sau da yawa muna jin labarin PTSD a cikin yanayin tsoffin mayaƙan yaƙi waɗanda suka ɗanɗana rauni na yaƙi; muna iya haɗa shi da mutanen da suka ga abubuwan ban tsoro, kamar hatsari, ko waɗanda aka yi wa lalata.

A cikin 1988, Judith Herman, farfesa a cikin Ilimin halin ɗabi'a a Jami'ar Harvard, ya ba da shawarar cewa sabon ganewar asali-hadaddun PTSD (ko CPTSD)-ana buƙatar bayyana tasirin rauni na dogon lokaci. ¹ Wasu daga cikin alamomin da ke tsakanin PTSD da CPTSD iri ɗaya ne - ciki har da walƙiya (jin kamar rauni yana faruwa a yanzu), tunani da hotuna masu shiga tsakani, da abubuwan jin daɗin jiki ciki har da gumi, tashin zuciya, da rawar jiki.

Mutanen da ke da CPTSD galibi suma suna fuskantar:

• Matsalolin tsarin motsin rai
• Jiran banza da rashin bege
• Jin ƙiyayya da rashin yarda
• Jin bambanci da nakasa
• Alamomin rarrabuwa
• Jin kunar rai

Abubuwan da ke haifar da CPTSD sun samo asali ne a cikin rauni na dogon lokaci kuma, kodayake ana iya haifar da shi ta kowane irin rauni-kamar cin zarafin gida ko zama a cikin yaƙi-galibi ana danganta shi da rauni wanda ya faru a ƙuruciya. Alamun yara na bayyane sune cin zarafin jiki da jima'i da sakaci na tunani.

Amma cin zarafin motsin rai, yayin da galibi ya fi wahalar ganewa, na iya haifar da CPTSD. Kuma cin zarafin motsin rai yana cikin zuciyar gogewar waɗancan yaran waɗanda suka girma tare da uwa mai ban tsoro. Dangane da dangantakar uwa-da-almajirai, cin zarafin motsin rai zai zama ɓarna a matsayin ɗaurin soyayya, ɗaukar sa a matsayin ɗabi'ar ɗabi'a da aka tsara don sarrafa ku, kiyaye ku kusa, kuma ku kasance a hannu don yin tunani game da ita menene tana buƙatar gani don ƙarfafa girman kai mai rauni.

Aspectsaya daga cikin mawuyacin al'amarin kasancewar ɗiyar mahaifi mai ban tsoro ita ce babban abin da kuka fi so a gare ta shine iyawar ku na amfani da ita. Wane irin amfani kuke da ita ya dogara ne akan wace irin mahaukaciya ce.

Sau da yawa muna danganta narcissism tare da waɗancan manyan nau'ikan waɗanda koyaushe suna son zama cibiyar kulawa. Amma masu kishiya suna daukar dukkan sifofi da sifofi kuma ana bayyana narcissism ɗin su ba kawai dangane da buƙatun su na kulawa ba, amma dangane da buƙatun su na kula da muhallin su da kare kan su, ta hanyar amfani da wasu.

Wataƙila mahaifiyarku ta yi amfani da ku a matsayin wanda zai kare ta daga mijinta, a matsayin wanda ya zama babban aminin ta, a matsayin wanda za ta saka da suka don ta ji daɗin kanta. Kowace irin amfani da ta yi niyya a gare ku - kuma yara suna cikin ɓangaren “wadata” mai ba da labari - wataƙila kun fuskanci matsanancin matsin lamba a cikin aikin.

A cikin duniyar da ta dace, da an yarda ku girma kawai kuna yaro, kuna jin daɗin 'yancin walwalar bincike da bayyana kai. 'Ya'yan mahaifi mahassada ba sa samun wannan alatu kuma, a maimakon haka, koyaushe suna ɗaga kafada don ganin ko sun ɓata wa mahaifiyarsu rai ta hanyar faɗin ko aikata abin da bai dace ba. Sun san cewa abu mafi mahimmanci a duniya shine gwadawa da farantawa mahaifiyarsu rai da rayuwa cikin yanayin tsoro koyaushe idan sun sami kuskure. (Yana ɗaukar shekaru da yawa na koyo don sanin abin da ake buƙata don "daidaita shi daidai," don haka hadaddun shine ka'idodin mahaifiyar narcissistic).

Shin samun kalma mai zafi, zargi, musun gogewar mutum da gaske mara kyau ne kamar a mare shi don mugun hali? Amsar ita ce eh. Dafin dafin da mahaifi mai iya magana zai iya kai wa ga yaranta yana yawan wuce gona da iri kuma abin tsoro ga yaro kamar yadda aka mare shi. Kuma tare da tsoro shine rikicewar kullun. Narcissists suna da rauni sosai kuma suna ƙirƙirar yanar gizo mai rikitarwa a kusa da kansu don sarrafa abin da suke yi kuma basa shiga. Tun yana yaro, ana iya ɗaukar motsin zuciyar ku a matsayin abin da ba za a yarda da shi ba idan sun haifar da kowace irin barazana ga mahaifiyar ku.

Bari muce kuna son kakar ku ta uba amma ku sani cewa mahaifiyar ku tana kishin ta. Maimakon samun 'yanci don bayyana soyayyar ku, zaku iya samun kanku kuna faɗin maganganu marasa daɗi game da kakar ku don farantawa mahaifiyar ku rai.

Ko kuma mu yi tunanin kai ɗan yaro ne mai ɗabi'a amma ka sani cewa mahaifiyarka za ta yi kishi da sauri idan ka kawar da ƙima daga gare ta. Bayyana bakin ciki ko tsoro kawai za a iya saduwa da izgili da izgili. Mahaifiyata ta auri mahaifina a wani bangare saboda ya fito daga tushen arziki fiye da ita da ita, kasancewa cikin jin daɗin kuɗi shine babban mai nuna cewa muna da rayuwa mai sauƙi. Duk wata magana ta motsin rai cewa abubuwa ba su cika zama cikakke a rayuwata ba - kadaici kuma tare da babban barazanar tunanin kashe kai da ke rataye da ni a koyaushe - an sadu da ƙaƙƙarfan kariya mai ban tsoro wanda ke da ban tsoro da kunya don kasancewa a ƙarshen karɓar.

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