Manya Manya Sun Bayyana Abunda Ke Samar Da Babban Jima'i

Yawan jama'ar Amurka yana tsufa cikin sauri. Manyan tsofaffi sun ƙunshi yawan masoya. Lokacin da ma'auratan da shekarunsu suka haura sittin, saba'in, da bayan haka suke da abokan tarayya kuma suna da ikon yin soyayya a zahiri, galibi suna yin jima'i na abokin tarayya na yau da kullun. Yawancin bincike sun nuna cewa idan aka kwatanta da dattawan da aka kauracewa ƙauracewar soyayya, waɗanda ke kula da rayuwar jima'i suna more gamsuwa ta dangantaka, ingantacciyar lafiyar jiki da ta hankali, ingantacciyar hangen nesa, ingancin rayuwa, har ma da tsawaita tsawon rai.

Amma a lokacin girma, jima'i na canzawa. Yawancin tsofaffi tsofaffi suna jin ƙarancin gaggawa da kuzarin jima'i, musamman waɗanda ke da yanayin rashin lafiya na yau da kullun (raɗaɗi, raɗaɗi, ciwon sukari, cututtukan zuciya, da sauransu). Mazan tsofaffi galibi suna haɓaka wani matakin rashin ƙarfi. Yawancin tsofaffi mata suna fama da bushewar farji da raɗaɗin nama (atrophy) wanda zai iya sa saduwa ta kasance mara daɗi koda da mai. Kuma yayin da kyandirori ke cika kek ɗin, yana ƙara zama da wahala ga tsofaffi da yawa su yi aiki har zuwa inzali.

Mafi girman Ragewa a Yawan Yawaita Gamsuwa

Amma yayin da yawan jima'i ke raguwa a rayuwar gaba, gamsuwa ta ragu sosai. A zahiri, wasu dattawa sun ce sun fi gamsuwa da soyayyarsu fiye da kowane lokaci. Ta yaya tsofaffi ke kula da jima'i mai gamsarwa? Masu bincike a Jami’ar Jihar Sonoma da ke California sun gayyaci manyan mutane sama da 50 don kammala binciken da aka buga na kwanaki 10 akan gidan yanar gizon NBC News. Fiye da mutane 9,000 ne suka halarta.

A cikin binciken su, masu binciken sun raba martani zuwa kungiyoyi huɗu:

• Ƙananan mita, ƙarancin gamsuwa (mara ƙanƙanta, masu amsa 3,985).
• Ƙananan mita, babban gamsuwa (low-high, 1,065).
• Babban mita, ƙarancin gamsuwa (babba-ƙasa, 951).
• Babban mita, babban gamsuwa (babba, 3,163,).

Masu binciken sun mai da hankali kan ƙungiyoyi biyu: masu ƙanƙantar da kai da masu ƙima, da kuma tace waɗanda ƙanƙantar da su ke haifar da matsalolin kiwon lafiya waɗanda suka yi katsalandan ga soyayya. Ƙananan rukunin sun kasance mafi yawan maza-kashi 48 na maza da suka amsa binciken, da kashi 38 na mata. Babban rukunin ya kasance mafi yawan mata-kashi 38 na mata, da kashi 33 na maza.

Abubuwan Jima'i Wanda Ya Rage Yawan Sauyi da Gamsuwa

Ƙananan mita da ƙarancin gamsuwa sun kasance masu alaƙa da:

1. Banbancin so. Lokacin da mutum yake son jima'i da muhimmanci fiye da ɗayan, soyayya tana wahala.
2. Rashin hankali. Bayan ɗan lokaci, tsoho iri ɗaya koyaushe yana daina jin daɗi.
3. Shiru. Masoya waɗanda basa tattauna buƙatunsu da buƙatunsu masu canzawa ko kuma waɗanda suka daina bincika game da waɗannan batutuwa bayan wani ɗan shekaru ya fara jin daɗin taɓa juna.
4. Watsa albarkatun taimakon kai. Lokacin da ɗaya daga cikin mata ya gabatar da abubuwan da ke ba da shawarwarin jima'i kuma ɗayan ya watsar da shi, mai gabatarwa yana jin haushi kuma ɗayan yana jin kariya. Idan abu ɗaya ya faru akai -akai, duka abokan haɗin gwiwar suna haɓaka fushi.
5. Babu saitin yanayi. Babu kyandir, kiɗa, dariya, ko raɗaɗin soyayya kafin da lokacin jima'i.
6. Rushing cikin saduwa. Kadan ko babu sumba, rungume-rungume, tausa gaba daya na jiki, tausa hannu, jima'i ta baki, ko kayan wasa.
7. Bambancin lokaci. Ma’aurata masu ƙanƙantar da kai sau da yawa ba sa jituwa kan tsawon lokacin da jima’i ya kamata ya kasance, tare da dagewa kan hanzari kan haifar da bacin rai a ɗayan.
8. Nisan motsin rai da tashin hankali na dangantaka. Waɗannan suna kashe sha’awa kuma suna lalata aikin.
9. Tarihin ban mamaki. Ƙananan dattawan sun kasance suna da dogon tarihin rashin gamsuwa da juna.
10. Tarihi. Lokacin da abokin tarayya ɗaya ya ce, "Ni/mun tsufa sosai don yin jima'i," ɗayan yana jin kamar an ware shi.

Abubuwan Jima'i Wanda Ya Haɓaka Yawan Yawa da Gamsuwa

Haɗuwa mai yawa da gamsuwa mai ƙarfi suna da alaƙa da:

1. Daidaitawa. Ma'aurata masu girman kai sun sami damar yin tattaunawar mitar jima'i duka biyun za su iya rayuwa tare da jin daɗi ko kaɗan.
2. Labarai. Duk wani sabon abu kuma daban yana motsa sakin dopamine, neurotransmitter na zafin jima'i. Manyan ma'aurata sun yi soyayya cikin sabbin hanyoyi a sabbin wurare, kuma a lokuta daban-daban. Sun kasance a buɗe don neman taimako na kai, kuma sun gode wa juna don gabatar da su.
3. Tattaunawa. Menene ainihin kusanci? Wahayin kai ta amfani da kalmomi. Shiru yana ɓata zumunci kuma yana ɓata dangantakar motsin rai. Ma'aurata masu babban matsayi suna ɗokin tattaunawa game da sha'awar jima'i, bukatunsu, da canje-canje. Sun kuma yabawa soyayyar junan su, kuma sun nemi a ba su amsa. Mutane da yawa sun kira ko aika sako kafin kwanan jima'i don su ce suna ɗokin yin soyayya.
4. Active yanayi-saitin. Manyan ma'aurata sun kasance manyan kan kyandirori, bango, kiɗa, dariya, suna cewa, "Ina son ku."
5. Yawan wasan soyayya. Kalmar da aka saba amfani da ita ita ce "wasan kwaikwayo," amma wannan yana nufin ayyukan da ke gab da saduwa. Yawancin masoya da yawa suna samun saduwa da wuya ko ba zai yiwu ba saboda larurar tsagewar maza, da bushewar farji da atrophy na mata. Manyan manyan masoya galibi suna rainawa ko raba tare da ma'amala kuma suna mai da hankali kan sumbata, sumbata, tausa gaba ɗaya, ayyukan hannu, yatsan hannu, jima'i na baki, kayan wasa, kuma wataƙila wasu wasan tsuliya da ƙyalli (makanta, tsiya).
6. Ƙara whoopee. Tare da ƙaruwa, yana ɗaukar tsawon lokaci don dumama zuwa wasan al'aura. Manyan ma'aurata sun ji daɗin wasan soyayya da ba na al'aura ba kafin su kai tsakanin kafafun juna.
7. Jarin motsin rai. Ma'aurata masu manyan matsayi sun ci gaba da aiki akan alaƙar su kuma suna maraba da tattaunawar.
8. Tarihin farin ciki. Ma'aurata waɗanda suka yi girma lokacin ƙuruciya yawanci suna kula da shi yayin da suka tsufa.
9. Alƙawarin ci gaba da yin jima'i. A cikin manyan ma'aurata, ma'auratan biyu sun yi imanin cewa jima'i yana da mahimmanci ga alaƙar, kuma ba ɗaya ba ne ya janye daga soyayya saboda tsufa ko wasu dalilai.

Ba Musamman Ga Tsofaffi

Yayin da wannan binciken ya mayar da hankali kan ma'aurata sama da 50, abubuwan da ke ba da gudummawa ga gamsar da jima'i ko rashin sa sun kasance masu dogaro da shekaru. Dalilan ƙananan da girma da gamsuwa sun shafi masoyan kowane zamani.

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