Yin Karya Yana Daga Cikin Sha'awar Shari'ar Casey Anthony

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• Ƙarin Albarkatun Maidowa:

Iyalan Narcissistic:

Lokacin da iyaye suka zama masu gulma, ana samun ƙaƙƙarfan dabaru a cikin iyali. Waɗannan ɗimbin ayyukan ana ɓoye su a zaman wani ɓangare na mafarki da ake so. Iyalan narcissistic duk game da hoto ne da yadda yake kallon duniyar waje. Lokacin da aka koya wa yara kiyaye sirrin, ƙarya ta zama ƙwarewar jimrewa don ci gaba da kasancewa cikin wannan tsarin iyali. Suna da ƙwarewa wajen saka gaban ƙarya duk da cewa wani labarin na iya buɗewa a bayan ƙofofin rufe. Dokar da ba a magana a cikin dangi mai ban tsoro ita ce "yi riya" cewa komai yayi daidai. "Saka murmushi a fuskarka kuma nuna hoton cewa komai yayi kyau." Samfurin iyaye da kuma saƙonnin da ba a magana da su suna ƙarfafa veneer mai kyalli. Ya zama abin al'ada kuma waɗanda suke yin riya ba za su ma ga ƙarya ba. Yana da hanyar rayuwa.

Idan wani memba na dangi ya nuna gaskiya ko 'kira' dangin da aka nuna, ana azabtar da wannan mutumin, a ware shi, kuma a ji shi kamar mahaukaci. Yana rushewa ga yaro saboda gaskiyar su kullum ana farfasawa. Ka yi tunanin ganin giwa a falo kuma ana gaya maka babu shi. Ka yi tunanin samun motsin da ba a yarda da shi ba amma a maimakon haka an gaya maka cewa abin ba daidai ba ne. Menene hakan yake yi wa matashi mai tasowa? ba abin mamaki bane cewa yaran da aka tashe a cikin dangi masu ban tsoro suna girma tare da shakkun kai da ƙarancin hankali.

Ba a magance jin daɗi a cikin dangi mara son kai.Wannan shine tushen tushe. Ana jin ana binnewa ko a ɓoye. Iyayen ba sa shiga cikin duniyar tunanin yaro. Idan aka kwatanta, a cikin iyalai masu lafiya ana tabbatar da jin daɗin yaran kuma yaron sannan ya san shi ko ita gaskiya ce kuma yana iya koyan dogaro da kai.

Iyalan Iyali:

Bangaren duhu na cin zarafin yara shine cewa dole ne a ɓoye shi. Ana cin hanci ga yara kanana a cikin dangin dangi, ana yi musu barazana, ana tilasta su, kuma ana gaya musu cewa wani mummunan abu zai faru idan suka faɗa. Yaro ya gaskanta wannan. A cikin iyalai da yawa na lalata, lokacin da ƙaramin yaro ya faɗi, ba a inganta shi ko yarda da shi. Wannan yayi kama da dangi mara mutunci. Amma, wannan ba abin mamaki bane saboda masu laifin jima'i, ba shakka, sun kasance masu tsananin kishin addini. Yaro mai laifin jima'i game da gamsar da bukatun kansa ne. Tausayi ga tasirin wanda aka azabtar ya ɓace. Ah, wani kamanceceniya da dangi mai ban tsoro.

Ba a ba da rahoton cin zarafin yara na dangi cikin sauƙi. An koya wa yaro don kare mai laifi da kuma iyali. An gaya wa yaron cewa idan ya fada, mai laifin zai tafi kurkuku, za a raba iyali, kuma yaron na iya zuwa wurin kula da yara. Gaskiyar ita ce, lokacin da yaron ya faɗi, waɗannan abubuwan suna faruwa. Idan yaron ya isa ya fahimci illolin, wannan wani dalili ne da ba za a faɗi ba. Wasu na iya kiran wannan ƙarya! Za ku iya? Idan muka fahimci kuzarin cin zarafin yara da sabili da haka mu ga inda halin yake fitowa, a bayyane yake yana kaiwa ga kiran wanda aka kashe marar laifi maƙaryaci. Wani lokaci abin da muke gani kamar ƙarya wani ɓangare ne na tsarin rayuwa mai koyo a cikin iyalai marasa aiki. A lokuta da yawa, ba a ba da rahoton cin zarafin yara har sai yaron ya manyanta. Sau da yawa, ba a taɓa ba da rahoto ba.

Dangane da shari'ar Casey Anthony, niyyar ba shine bayar da ra'ayi ko kare kowane bangare na dandalin ba. Amma, sau da yawa girman ƙasa na iya zama daban a gefen ƙasa. Don kawai ganin wani a matsayin maƙaryaci wanda aka haifa yana ɓacewa da tarin bayanai waɗanda zasu iya taimakawa fahimtar ma'anar mummunan bala'i. Wataƙila zai iya hana wani abu makamancin wannan daga faruwa nan gaba. Bayanai marasa kyau na iya yin haushi game da alaƙa da narcissism da cin zarafin yara kuma ana tayar da waɗannan batutuwan a wannan yanayin. Dangi da dangi marasa son rai duka suna buƙatar "ƙarya" azaman buƙatun memba don ci gaba da kasancewa memba.

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