Zabi Tsakanin Masoya Da Farin Ciki namu

James Joyce yana da ɗan gajeren labari, "Eveline," game da wata budurwa 'yar shekara 19, Eveline Hill, wacce ke fuskantar zaɓi tsakanin ci gaba da zama tare da mahaifinta mai cin mutunci a Dublin da barin Buenos Aires tare da ita (sirrin mahaifinta) masoyi, wani jirgin ruwa mai suna Frank. Eveline ta yi wa Frank alƙawarin zai tafi tare da shi kuma ya aure shi, kuma na ɗan lokaci, ta yi farin ciki da begen. Ba za ta sake jin Miss Gavan, babba a shagon da take aiki, yana ce mata a gaban abokan ciniki, "Miss Hill, ba ku ga waɗannan matan suna jira ba?" Maimakon haka, za a yi mata ladabi. Rayuwarta tare da Frank, tana tsammanin, zai fi kyau - ya fi kyau - fiye da rayuwar mahaifiyarta da mahaifinta. Frank, ba kamar mahaifinta ba, mai kirki ne kuma mai son zuciya. Yana son yin waka kuma mutumin kirki ne.

Amma yayin da ranar tashi ke gabatowa, tunanin Eveline yana jujjuyawa akai -akai ba zuwa nan gaba a Buenos Aires ba amma a baya. Mahaifin Eveline ya kasance mai zagi. Shekaru da yawa yana da wahalar samun kuɗi don gidan daga gare shi, amma kwanan nan, ya fara barazanar Eveline da tashin hankali, yana faɗin abin da zai yi mata amma saboda mahaifiyarta da ta mutu. Amma duk da haka, Eveline yanzu ta sami kanta tana tunanin mafi kyawun ɓangaren mahaifinta: na yadda ya sanya 'yan uwanta da dariyarta lokacin da suke yara ta hanyar sanya kwalliyar mahaifiyarta; yadda sau ɗaya, lokacin da ta yi rashin lafiya, ya karanta mata labari kuma ya yi gasa. Ta kuma tuna cewa ta yi wa mahaifiyarta alkawarin cewa za ta ci gaba da zama tare. Me yakamata tayi? Joyce ya rubuta:

Tserewa! Dole ne ta tsere! Frank zai cece ta. Zai ba ta rai, wataƙila soyayya ma. Amma tana son ta rayu. Me ya sa ba za ta yi farin ciki ba? Tana da 'yancin samun farin ciki. Frank zai dauke ta a hannun sa, ya nade ta a hannun sa. Zai cece ta.

Lokacin da lokacin ya zo, duk da haka, Eveline ta ga ba ta iya fita. Frank ya ja ta zuwa cikin kwalekwalen, amma ta kama gindin ƙarfe da dukkan ƙarfin ta. Katangar ta faɗi, kuma Frank ya koma da baya shingen zuwa Eveline, ya kira ta, amma bai yi nasara ba. Eveline ta zaɓi mahaifinta mai cin mutunci akan rayuwa mafi kyau tare da Frank. Ta zaɓi zama a Dublin.

Na san mutane a cikin mawuyacin halin Eveline. Ba da daɗewa ba, ina da ɗalibi wanda ya yi kyau sosai a farkon rabin semester amma ingancin aikinsa wanda kwatsam ya lalace. Na tambaye ta abin da ya faru. Ta ce an kira ta ta dawo gida don kula da kannun yara da dangin da ke fama da rashin lafiya. Studentalibin yana son taimako daga gare ni wajen yanke shawarar abin da zai yi. Ta tambaya ko ina tsammanin za ta zama mai son kai idan ta zaɓi barin garinsu don mai da hankali kan karatun ta. Ban tuna abin da na faɗi daidai ba, amma na tuna cewa na aika mata da labarin Joyce game da Eveline Hill.

Menene yakamata mu yi a cikin irin wannan yanayin - wanda a cikin abin da membobin dangin da muka himmatu don dawo da mu cikin rayuwa?

Abu na farko da nake son lura da shi shine, wannan shari'ar ta sha bamban da irin waɗanda ke biye: laan lalaci da rashin sanin yakamata ya ɓata kuɗin iyayensa maimakon neman aiki, ko kuma a koyaushe yana fita dare a gari yayin da iyaye marasa lafiya ke buƙatar taimako. A waɗancan lokuta na ƙarshe, mutane suna zaɓar jin daɗin banza akan mahimman bukatun waɗanda ke kusa da ƙaunatattu kuma wataƙila, akan ayyukansu.

Al’amarin da nake da shi ya sha bamban kuma da wanda mutum daga cikin matalauta ke samun arziki duk da haka ya ƙi ba da taimako ga danginsa.

Wasu na iya ƙoƙarin yin kamanceceniya tsakanin lamurra kamar na Eveline ko ɗalibina da na ɗan mara gaskiya ko kuma attajirin da ya manta asalin sa. Wasu na iya amfani da layi ɗaya don yin fenti ga mutumin da ya zaɓi bin burin kansa a matsayin son kai da rashin godiya. Amma babu kama a nan. Don a fayyace, ba ina ba da shawarar cewa duk mutumin da ya fito daga talaka wanda ya yi arziki da nasara yana da wajibin aika kuɗi ga dangin marasa galihu, ko dai. Yawanci ya dogara da yadda wasu suka yi masa kyau. Iyayen mutum na iya, bayan haka, sun kasance masu cin mutunci - a hankali ko a zahiri - don yin watsi da duk wani iƙirarin da za su iya samu a kan godiya ko taimako na yaro. Amma a lokuta da yawa, musamman waɗanda iyayen mutum ba su kasance ba sai goyon baya - wataƙila suna yin babban sadaukarwa don samun damar biyan kuɗin shiga makaranta - zai zama rashin ladabi kuma mara kyau mutum ya juya musu baya daga baya, lokacin da mutum zai iya taimakawa.

Koyaya, lamuran da nake da su a zuciya sun sha bamban. Abin da membobin dangi a cikin yanayi kamar na ɗalibina ko Eveline galibi suke so ba taimako kawai ba ne. Suna son ɗayan - yawanci yaro amma wani lokacin ɗan'uwan, jikoki, ko wani dangi - don sadaukar da burin sa, burin sa, da damar samun farin ciki. Suna dagewa da ba da shawara kan yadda rayuwar ɗayan za ta kasance, kuma babban abin da ya fi damun su ba shi ne maslahar ɗayan ba sai nasu.

Catherine Arrowpoint daga littafin George Eliot Daniel Deronda dalilai daban -daban daga Eveline Hill. Catherine ta fito ne daga dangin aristocratic, kuma a wurinta, ba kuɗi ko lokacin iyayenta suke so ba; a maimakon haka, iyayen Catherine, mahaifiyarta musamman, sun dage kan ikon veto idan ya zo ga auren budurwar. Mahaifiyar tana son Catherine ta daina tunanin yin aure da mawaƙi, Herr Klesmer, daga asalin rayuwa. Tana ƙoƙarin shawo kan Catherine cewa irin wannan ƙungiya za ta kasance mara kyau - abin kunya ga dangi.

Yayin da Joyce's Eveline ta rarrabu cikin gida kuma tana addu'ar Allah ya nuna mata hanyar gaba, mahaifiyar Catherine a bayyane ta ce Catherine tana da ayyukan iyali wanda ya hana auren Herr Klesmer. Mahaifiyar tana ƙoƙarin yin laifi-tursasa ɗiyar ta yi watsi da shirin zama matar mutumin da take so. Amma, Catherine ta ƙi. Eliot ya rubuta:

“Mace a matsayin ku tana da manyan ayyuka. Inda aiki da son kai suka ci karo, dole ne ta bi aiki. ”

“Ban musanta hakan ba,” in ji Catherine, ta yi sanyi daidai gwargwadon zafin mahaifiyarta. "Amma mutum na iya faɗi abubuwa na gaske kuma ya yi amfani da su cikin ƙarya. Mutane za su iya ɗaukar nauyin kalma mai tsarki azaman suna don abin da suke son kowa ya yi. ”

Tabbas, da alama yana da sauƙi ga Catherine fiye da yadda Eveline ta tsaya tsayin daka, saboda buƙatun mahaifiyar Catherine sun samo asali ne a cikin lambar zamantakewar da Catherine ta gani a matsayin sabani. Mahaifiyar Catherine ba ta buƙatar taimako. Har yanzu, lamuran guda biyu suna cikin muhimman hanyoyi a layi ɗaya, sai dai cewa 'yan matan biyu sun zaɓi zaɓi daban -daban. Catherine ta yi imanin tana da 'yancin auren mutumin da ta ƙaunace ta, kuma ta yi. Eveline ba ta gama yanke hukuncin cewa tana da aikin zama ba, amma ta sami kanta da kasa fita.

Yayin da Eveline ke fama da mawuyacin halin da take ciki, ta tuna wani abu da mahaifiyarta ta faɗi a kan gadonta na mutuwa. Mahaifiyar a lokacin tana cikin tashin hankali kuma ba ta da cikakkiyar lafiya, amma kalmomin sun dawo Eveline: "Derevaun Seraun." Joyce ba ta ba da fassarar jumlar ba, amma a bayyane, wannan ita ce kalmar Irish Gaelic wacce ke nufin: "A ƙarshen jin daɗi, akwai zafi." An ba mu don fahimtar cewa ga Eveline, wannan jumlar tana ba da shawarar daidaituwa don son zama.

Akwai, duk da haka, darussa daban -daban Eveline na iya zanawa daga tsohuwar magana. Misali, tana iya yanke shawarar cewa lallai za ta biya farashi ta hanyar barin, wataƙila zafi ba zai yuwu ba, amma duk da haka, barin Frank shine abin da yakamata ta yi. Me ya sa ba ta?

Yana da wahala a faɗi, amma ina tsammanin Eveline ta gano cewa akwai haɗin gwiwa da ke riƙe da ita zuwa Dublin, haɗin da ba za ta iya yankewa ba. Zai yiwu ya fi sauƙi ga Eveline ta tafi tare da Frank zuwa Buenos Aires idan mahaifinta ya kasance mugu ne, idan bai taɓa ƙoƙarin nishadantar da ƙananan yaransa ko yin wani abu da ke kula da Eveline ba. Rayuwar Eveline da ta gabata, a wannan yanayin, za ta kasance mai annashuwa, amma makomarta za ta kasance mai haske, wataƙila ta fi haske. Abin da ya fi muni da rashin ƙauna kwata -kwata, wani lokacin, ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan so ne, son da ke da ƙarfi wanda zai iya jawo mana ciwo amma bai isa ya tsarkake mu ba don kawo mana farin ciki.